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Hello All
Time for another Margerett's Memo, and this month I'm going philosophical. Something to make us think and hopefully see things differently. Remember, I can get away with a lot, as I am the "older women" and no longer have to worry about what others think.
In my dealings with others, I have found that we do a lot of this, and that is "compromise". Sometimes we might even do it without knowing. A small example, you and a friend want to go to see a movie. You both want to see different pics. In the end, you go and see her choice.
Nothing serious, but a "compromise" never the less!
Lets look at a bigger issue. You and your partner want to take a holiday. You would like to visit a game farm, he wants to spend a week at a casino. Definitely a conflict of interest there.
If you decide to compromise and go to the casino(for the sake of peace) you need to make it your choice. You must feel happy with the decision.
The problem that sets in, maybe after years of "compromise", is that resentment starts to build up. We may feel that no one ever wants to do things our way. This can lead to ill health and even depression. So, for the sake of your health, come to some agreement with your partner & others. Take turns in making the decisions, big or small.
This practice can also be introduced to our children. It is valuable to them to know they have a say in what the family does & their opinion is important.
The next issue is routine. We all know what that is, and its boring.
Same thing, day in and day out. An example could be: make the bed, feed the dog, make school lunch, do the school lift club, rush to the office, shop for food, prepare meals, etc etc. Same thing, day after day, year after year.
Well, another way of looking at it is, routine is our friend. It is like an old slipper (most of you wouldn’t know about that). Usually, when routine changes, it is due to unforeseen circumstance, which is not always positive. You get a call from school to pick up your child, who is not well. The electricity in your house has switched off & you have a freezer full of meat. These daily happenings, we could do without. Give us "routine" any day.
The trick is to change how we think about our "routine". If we learn to welcome it mentally as our friend, and see it in a positive light, it will make all the difference to how we feel about it.
After all, the bed has to be made, the dog must be fed. These are facts of life & if our mental attitude can find a positive aspect to them, it makes it so much easier on us. So give it some thought. Think about your "routine" and how you can turn it into a plus, for you.
Now something totally different. I am giving you years of advance warning, so don’t say you did not know. Learn exactly where your eyes are in relation to your face, & learn how to apply your eye make up expertly. When you reach 60+ you get a bit of a shock. Suddenly everything is slightly blurred and your eyes aren’t exactly where you thought they were. No problem, you think Ill just put on my specs. But guess what girls, you cant apply eye make up behind your specs. Talk about a catch 22! So next time you come across an "older woman" who looks like she put her eye make up onto her cheek, take pity. It could be you one day!
Well, in our family September/October is the month of Birthdays, and this month our daughter, Yvonne, is turning 40! I’m sure you all join me in wishing her a Very Happy 40th Birthday. May the next 12 months join together to bring you a FANTASTIC year Yvonne, and may Acorn grow from strength to strength under your leadership.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY YVONNE!
Cheers, Margerett
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